Before Valentine’s day ends, let me share this conversation I had with my friend.

Many of you know that I have been single for like always. And being single means having to deal with your friends being in and out of relationships. Not that I am complaining, in fact, I am mostly happy for my friends when they get into another relationship. But what I cannot comprehend is why my non-single friends can’t be happy for my singlehood. 

Friend: Why are you still single?

Me: Really? Totoong tanong yan? (Is that a real question?)

F: Yup.

M: IDK. Maybe I do not like dating. 

F: Hanapan kita! Anong type mo? (I’ll find you someone, what’s your type?)

M: Oh sige. Dapat at least 5’9” ang height, ang IQ 130 and above, at least knows three languages, must know the difference between “they’re and their”, must have read at least the classics of philosophy and the social sciences. Yun pa lang naman.

F: OA! Hahahahahahaha. Kaya pala ang bitter mo! (That is why you are bitter!)

Obviously, I was trying to be sarcastic. What annoys me the most is the mentality that single people are bitter or somewhat scarred. That may be true in some cases, but that is not a fact. Why is it that when your friends are in a relationship, they try and push you to be in a relationship as well? For what - synchronicity? And also, being in a relationship does not magically solve all your life’s problems.

So what if I’m single. I may be just be with myself all the time but that doesn’t make me lonely. I am at peace even if I’m not with someone else, and that for me is more important than being in a relationship.